[E–pub Download] (Wholly Unraveled) AUTHOR Keele Burgin
Ople do not remember every detail of their childhood but when you are writing about it you need to provide some reason for the things that happen The first section of the book is a series of unrelated incidents connected only by the abuse meted out by Kathleen s father Kathleen is her birth name so she uses it through the book she does not explain how she comes to call herself Keele nor does she explain how it is pronounced which I found frustrating Although there are four girls in the family and later twin boys one of whom died as an infant apparently from SIDS but this is not discussed nor explained Kathleen is the chosen scapegoat for the family She alone is beaten whipped with a belt made to sleep in the garage etc And she alone is blamed for something that very likely was not her fault and view spoilerher father shot at her twice and missed it is not clear whether he missed on purpose or if he was ust a bad shot Considering how far he took her into the desert it seems likely that he really did intend to kill her hide spoiler This was an First reads for MarchThis was such an odd reading experience on the one hand shocking descriptions of abuse leading to addiction and self destructive behaviour on the other all the characters including the narrator are so one dimensional large parts of the book don t ring uite trueI couldn t get a grip of her family was she the only child being abused and if so why Why were the parents ok with the daughters going to parties but not with her wearing EMT-B Field Guide jeans Has the author come to any kind of understanding of her family dynamics One specific episode that bothered me was after she gets arrested for having a party in the neighbours house her punishment is confinement to the pool house So a legitimate crime she was actually arrested for gets this soft treatment while wearingeans gets her beaten with a stick Not saying it didn t happen this way but some kind of explanation would have been interestingAnd how did such a controlling family agree to send her away to college with no supervisionI also didn t understand why she later chose to enter a different cult like environment Did she really overcome addiction by doing laundry in silence and being locked up in a cabin in the woods After the outburst with the priest I expected some kind of revelation that she was 8 Sissy Nights just running from one oppressive religion to another but instead this is what shows her the way forwardAnd why did her father never contact her to bring her back into the fold before she went to live in the Madonna House How did he even know he would find her thereUltimately a somewhat interesting read but it left me with too many unanswered uestions. R step in her unraveling Instead with her demons uieted she emerged with a fresh understanding of self an empowering new purpose and a sense of worthiness that she would never let be challenged again Wholly Unraveled is Keele Burgin’s gripping and inspiringourney of self discovery and of finally finding her voice against nearly insurmountable odds.
This is a gripping memoir and I read it in about 24 hours The abuse trauma and self destruction Kathleen Burgin writes about is vivid and shockingThe struggle for me is that it all feels a bit disjointed It s storytelling without a resolution I want to know how she moved from one phase of her life to the next how she became an author why she cut off ties with her whole family etc I m not looking for a happy ending necessarily but Maestro just some type of closure on the story Totally engrossing but there sust too little resolution for the reader Researching the author after the fact it seems she goes on to do absolutely incredible things which prove the most amazing self growth and healing But how How does she leave Toronto and accomplish all these things with no family or money Does she ever meet up with her siblings again Why does she take her son to meet her father Did she ever make amends with Logan What happened to Grace There are Judgment Under Uncertainty just so many holes that make it a struggle to have closure I kudos the author for sharing her horrible tale and hope she publishes an after note with some answers This was a difficult read and left me with too many uestionswhy why why I found it ironic that she ran away from the abuse in one cult to only then find herself seeking help in another I do understand everyone has their ownourney and Kathleen s Be a Nose! journey was a tragic onevery tragic I m giving 25 stars for the unclear writing and lack of connecting the dots Free from as part of the March First ReadsThe depictions of abuse are seriously rough and Kathleen s destructive behavior in the second section of the book is tough to watch But overall it s an uneven book How did she grow her life after leaving Madonna House What is her current relationship with Shirley With her siblings Her parentsI read the acknowledgementsust to see if there was some mention of her current life and if I could ascertain anythingHow did you make it out How do you live now ARGH So many uestions i was caught up in this book from page one i read it in 2 days took my kindle to bed with me reading page after page under the covers fell asleep with it put most of life on hold today and Sencillamente mindfulness just finished it i saw so much of myself in her wordsi admit as others have reviewed and stated that there are so many parts of her story left unknowing but those are her memories stories and nightmares i m sure they will make it to print for our hungry eyes at some point but that s what i like about her her random bits of reflection and which layers of the onion she decides to peel back for us when i was reading her first moments of abuse i noticed my body flush and my heart start to race i was carryi. Sometimes all that it takes to start over is the courage to say you willIn Kathleen’s home redeans were a sin Parties were punishable with violence Fear was part of the daily norm Growing up in a Catholic cult under the unforgiving eye of her abusive father Kathleen knew from an early age that if she were to survive she’d have to do it on her ow.
Ng the anxiety in me thru her thru me it made me feel than i thought 5 stars all day all night long bravo for a brave womans voice thru vulnerability i appreciate it This is an unbelievable story of survival Kathleen if you were here right now I d hug the heck out of you I wouldn t speak No vine para quedarme just hug because I have no words Again unbelievable There aren t enough words to describe Kathleen s father Mean Too small a word Cruel Nope not big enough Heartless If this were fiction I d say C mon that would never happen But it s non fiction and it did happen It sust incredibly cruel that a parent a dad could inflict so much pain on their child Kathleen s story is remarkable Congratulations That s all I ll say since I don t want to include a Spoiler Congratulations on surviving and living Thank you Ms Burgin for allowing me to read this very raw and honest memoir that reveals glimpses into your life a life that I cannot even imagine This was my First Reads pick for the month of MarchI m honestly not sure how to feel about this book On one hand it was an engrossing story that grabbed onto me and didn t want to let me go until I finished it On the other hand there was so much self destruction and bouncing from one to cult to what sounded like another that I found myself getting annoyed Reading about her growing up was hard because she had no control over that Reading about her adult years was also hard because she did At the end I felt like we were told a half story A story a Keele Burgin went through a childhood that made mine look like 18 years at Disney World My father was an authoritarian Catholic man who always had to be right and we children were little bundles of Original Sin that needed to be corrected and molded into good people But he loved us He was consistent He played with us We Helpful Paws just learned or tried to learn not to push his buttons Keele s father was self righteous vindictive and mean Her mother read frightened and submissive Keele acted out rebelled and got kicked out She spent years self abusing and hating herself until she ended up at a remote retreat center where she was forced to reckon with her anger and hatred This book is a tough read But it made me think something When I was a kid and things were bad at my house and my parents were yelling and screaming at us at the tops of their lungs and saying awful things why didn t anyone ever say something or come to our rescue Maybe it was because worse things were uietly going on in other houses TRIGGER WARNING Detailed descriptions of child abuse and rape If these are triggers for you think twice before reading this bookThis book was extremely frustrating to read I understand that pe. NBut when the time came to escape she found herself in a damaging spiral of self destruction At rock bottom and with nowhere to go Kathleen stepped off a bus in the last place she ever thought she’d find peace a remote and very Catholic community Spending a year in almost complete silence Kathleen feared this experience would prove to beust anothe.