[A House United Changing Childrens Hearts and Behaviors by Teaching Self Government] E–book È Nicholeen Peck
My visiting teacher suggested this book after a conversation about some parenting challenges I was having There were some really ood thoughts here This was one of the most logical practical books on parenting I ve read Here are a few points that really resonated with me We are teaching kids to master themselves their actions their thoughts We don t want them to be Dark Desires good out of convenience for us as parents but so they can be functioning happy adults in society Janet s Junk Food Principle the things kids whine about the most is what they need the least I ve noticed this with my own kids when they whine about notetting enough time for computer video The Corporate Raiders Revenge (Suite Secrets, games or friends it s usually because they ve had too much and don t know how to stop Home should be the safest environment to make mistakes Some advice is just plain bad advice and we don t have to listen to it I could have used this little pep talk eight and a half years ago All those silly baby magazines had me convinced I was doing it wrong It s important to schedule in fun The anticipation of a family activity is just as important as the activity itself What are we really communicating If we are frustrated all the time complaining about how hard it is to be a mother will our children want to become parents when they are older When we yell at our kids can we really expect them to be calm when lifeets stressful for them I read the part about yelling on Sunday morning and then promptly proceeded to yell at my kids for being late to church Obviously reading a parenting book isn t enough to magically transform your parenting The Course of Action good news is that when we finally didet to church I was reminded that I can repent and try again I think this is one of the biggest lessons from this book if I am Christmas Masquerades going to teach my kids to be calm and problem solve I as a parent need to be calm in my interactions with my kids and model the behavior I want them to have It s important to prep your kids for situations before they happen beforeoing to a Skylars Outlaw grocery store with the kids in tow for instanceive clear expectations of store behavior and conseuences for following or not following that behavior before you Blades Lady go in I ve had lots of success with prepping when I remember to do it before taking family pictures for instance I liked the suggestion on prepping even for small things We need to have low tolerances Honestly this kind of went against my natural inclinations at first but after thinking about it and discussing it with my friend it makes sense If I am tolerant of the kids leaving out all their stuff I end up picking up after them I try to do it in the name of patience and longsuffering but usually that doesn t work and Iet a little resentful It doesn t help them they don t learn to clean up after themselves nor does it help me I Learning Yii Testing getrumpier and rumpier until I finally snap at somebody and they don t even understand why so the cycle repeats itself I ve tried having a low tolerance on the pick up after yourself rule lately and it actually feels much healthier even though I might look like a nag The thing is my kids don t seem to think I am nagging they honestly seem to appreciate the reminders and the clear expectations Negative conseuences don t necessarily have to be logical I know there s a paradigm that believes in appropriate conseuences for things children do sort of the you made the mess you clean it up mentality I uess and I m all for that for the most part But sometimes coming up with a conseuence takes a lot creativity than I have The author suggests letting natural conseuences do the teaching when it makes sense but if not there are only another three or four conseuences to earn though the severity of each conseuence differs based on the infraction The conseuences are always the same and the kids know what to expect She also points out that kids don t have to suffer through their conseuences in order to learn something we are not trying to punish but to teach Good pointSo after all that why only three stars Well the rammarian in me had a terrible terrible time with this book I uess it was self published but it really could have used a proofreader to fix the many comma errors spelling errors and punctuation errors By the end of the book there were multiple typos on every page and frankly it drove me crazyBut I realize I am really uptight about that kind of thing so maybe I could have overlooked all. Parenting A House United is based on Nicholeen’s popular seminar series Teaching Self Government This book shows parents the communication skills they need to teach children to overn themselves With the proper family environment and understanding
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A House United Changing Childrens Hearts and Behaviors by Teaching Self Government E–book È Nicholeen Peck
Pt structure that is consistently appliedClear rules and values make life easier for parents and children This is a point that comes through repeatedly in Parenting A House United Raising children into adults that know how to overn themselves reuires vision Every member of the family needs to clearly see a family The Philosophical Journey goal or vision in order to work together and for the communication system to work Many parents have a family vision but they fail to properly communicate that vision to their children Often they don t know how to begin or to follow through Nicholeen s book would be areat resource for parents in such a stateIn truth the type of parenting described in Parenting A House United is not easy Trying to apply everything at once could leave some readers feeling overwhelmed and intimidated But like every journey parenting begins with a few steps And this book can serve as a map to help struggling parents know how to reach the final destinationMy Asset Protection graduate studies on communication focused on theory We studied the work of behavioral psychologists who did early research on how people communicateA few years later my wife was working on araduate degree in education As I helped her study I discovered that educational theory incorporated the work of many of the sa Well I wrote this so it s not fair to really review it I suppose I will say that this book is not just mine I wrote it for someone much Enzymes Enzyme Therapy greater than myself It is my hope that it will bring happiness to homes and inspire a vision of a new way to interact as families Times are hard everywhere There is no important time to strengthen homes and families than now That is the purpose of this book I hope you enjoy it To order this booko to I know this has been pointed out OVER and over againbut for my own referenceThe editing is HORRIBLE in this book the author has addressed the issue I hope they are able to reprint with new edits and clean the book up a bit The content is WONDERFUL Wonderful enough that I am willing to still Blindsided give the book 5 stars because it outshines the poor editingThis is changing the way our family interacts with each other Our family meetings are becoming SO effective and I am constantly amazed at how well my youngins respond to this tecniue I was just positive they were too young but I was wrongLove the BBC special World s Strictest Parents too You can find the episode featuring their family as well as many helpful videos and a blog on Nicholeen s site I hope I can become as calm and selfoverning as Nicholeen This book had some At Land great parenting ideas I loved the way that Nicholeen describes having a family vision motto and a set of rules They use a familyovernment system that I m sure works when organized properly The only problem with this book is Nicholeen seems to have a huge amount of patience and I m not sure I could live up to her high standards of consistency and calmness Okay I m not done yet but this is an amazing parenting book and maybe the last I ll ever read I would and probably will recommend this to friends because it s that On the Run good and I rarely make book recommendationsI can see that it is already helping my family as we are in some bad habits that can make life unpleasant I wish I had discovered this 8 years ago but maybe I wouldn t have been ready for it The principles areood for families that don t need a lot of help but just a little improving They are fabulous for families in some level of crisis kids out of control make life hard to bearI have been so inspired by this book Personal NotesWhen a child is out of control a help is SODAS a way for them to think through their behavior a writing exercise or thinking exercise if they are younger and unable to writeSODAS Situation Options Diasadvantages Advantages SolutionExample Child hits and yells at his little brother who The Price Of Blood (Phil Broker, grabbed her pen at church now she needs to do SODASSituation I m minding my own business and drawing pictures when my little brother comes along andrabs my penOptions1 Hit and yell advantages immediate revenge disadvantages I Russian Winter get in trouble I embarrass my family I hurt my brother2 Ignore him advantages I am in control of myself disadvantages I don tet my pen back3 Ask nicely for the pen advantages I Meg and the Mystery in Williamsburg (Meg Duncan, get my pen back I am in control of myself disadvantages noneYouet the picture reat thinking tool with a time cost that might make a child think twice before making bad decision. Sable and a joy for all to read Even if you have heard Nicholeen speak before you can’t pass this book up It promises new stories examples valuable uestion and answer and further insights never before shared It is sure to be a valuable family handbo.
That were it not for the fact that this book was so darn long I certainly understand the impulse to overexplain when writing as is somewhat obvious based on the length of this review haha but seriously almost 400 pages I was only halfway through the book when I almost put it down just because I felt really overwhelmed by it all so it was ood that I could talk to my visiting teacher again and have her help me put it in perspectiveStill this is a ood resource even if the execution is a little off I admire the author and all she s done to help families If you re needing some ideas on how to handle this parenting ig this is a Kawaii Manga good book to look through I am having a really hard time rating this book I disagree with the author on a few really fundamental and foundational issues so most of the book reallyoes off rails for me for that reason However this book did reinforce the idea that my husband and I need to set up a somewhat formal system of The House Girl government for our family and that my children need predictable and consistent conseuences for specific behaviors as a rule So for that reason I cannot disregard it completely as one that was completely unhelpful However as my faith and theology inform the parenting and discipleship decisions I make for my children in ways totally contrary to some of the basic assumptions in this book I cannot recommend it This book is bit wordy and has than a few missing or superfluous commas but my family has already seen many positive results from following the principles and methods it o This book was highly recommended but I was still a bit skeptical as I always am with self help type books So what a pleasant surprise to find some powerful principles of truth These ideas of parenting and family communication are based on compassion respect and empathy Most importantly this book focuses on how parents MUST GOVERN THEMSELVES to allow their children to learn from them This is an area in which I struggle so I feel relieved and hopeful to have a pattern to follow There are some things I tweak for my kids and our situation but mostly I do it by the bookI just have to say however how disappointed I was to have to struggle through the typos badrammar and lack of punctuation Hopefully this author will make so much money with this book that she will be able to afford editors for a new edition This is the best parenting book I have ever read and I have read many The author breaks everything down to very simple steps that can be repeated for most behaviors making it a universal method for not only fixing behaviors but changing hearts A driving philosophy of the book is that your main The Accursed goal as a parent is to help children understand cause and effect so that they can learn to control their impulses andain self mastery or self overnme Since publishing my book on parenting early this year I ve researched the writings of numerous authors who have dealt with the same subject The two major parenting approaches I read tend to focus on religion or psychologyWhile both are valid they often lack practicalityAs a result I was pleased to discover the work of Nicholeen Peck who provides a wealth of practical advice and clearly explains how to apply it in specific situations Parenting A House United is a book I wish had been available to me before I started raising my familyMany parents today are concerned about the mentality of entitlement that seems pervasive among today s youths I know that the principles and methods outlined in Nicholeen s book would be effective in dealing with attitudes of entitlement as well as many other parenting challengesEntitlement is a lobal problem that affects children that are raised without much responsibility It is not necessarily specific to children raised in wealth and privilege Nicholeen her husband Spencer ot a chance to demonstrate their parenting abilities on a BBC television show called The World s Strictest Parents They hosted two teens from England in their home Several clips from the show are posted at They are worth watchingParents often worry about adopting new standards and new parenting methods with older children There is a fear that establishing and enforcing rules will cause older children to rebel The experiences the Pecks had with these two teens and with many foster children they have brought into their home shows that although some children might rebel most will adapt and acce. F childhood behaviors homes can become happier Even if families simply implement some of Nicholeen’s tested parenting principles their family life will improve Nicholeen’s candid story telling style and experience with tough teens makes the book
Nicholeen Peck is a mother of four and previous foster parent of many She has been trained and certified in using the “Teaching Family Model” which was developed at Boys Town and is used by the Utah Youth Village Nicholeen did foster care for very difficult teens She taught children with ADHD OCD kleptomania compulsive lying anger control issues etc She said “I taught behaviors not med